Like the topic may imply, should teenagers be allowed to have doors that lock from the inside?
No, I'm not some fourteen year old venting about life to strangers. I just had the fortune of having to listen to a teenager venting about life and how his parents suck...This is one of the few things I both like and hate about training a teenage boxer. Whenever conversation turns to teenage subjects, I either get nostalgia about hating my parents for no reason, or I feel just plain old when he asks what Voltron is. Well, just talked to him about an incident earlier this week, that drags in everything from the Zippo lighters to internet predators.
The teenager in question recently moved his room into an unfinished, wall-less basement. He has it better down there than I do in an apartment. Couch, futon, coffee table, pool table, entertainment system he worked up himself, dorm-style fridge, he even has a tool box with a few LED Mini-Mags in it.
Hey, you get trained by a flashaholic, you walk away with a few lights.
Sometime earlier in the week, he goes downstairs to his room to change his clothes for the night. Yes, a teenage male that changes his clothes in private, I was just as shocked. He said he was halfway done dressing, when one of his parents, step-father, walks down the steps with a power drill. The kid jumps beind the couch and tries to cover up...the guy walks right through his 'room'(no walls, but through his furniture) and plkugs in the drill without even caring to notice the kid isn't dressed and is quite obviously disturbed. By this point in the story, I'm laughing my head off because I'm an insensitve jerk. Then, vhe tells me that his step-dad then casually stopped by the couch the kid is covering himself with...asks him a random, casual question about Zippo Lighters, and proceeds to walk up the steps as if nothing happened. All the while, poor kid is caught without a stitch. My reaction?
The idiot didn't lock his door, making it okay to laugh at his misfortune. We were all in high school once, this is one heck of a bus-stop story.
...His parents don't let him have a lock on his door. Even when he was in a normal room of the house, he never had a lock. I thought he was exaggerating at first, but as it turns out, he's serious. He's a fifteen year old sophomore high school, top cadet last semester of JROTC, wants to pursue a career dealing with internet predators, no computer or intenet connection in the room...His folks never let him get a lock on his door. He's a normal kid, and this seems to be a pretty much normal family. He says things like this just happen, and this is so bizarre I'm not sure it's even legal, a day to think about it left me just a tad ticked at the idea of a MINOR being seen in this state casually.
On the other hand...Some parents may agree on this, some teenagers just aren't ready to have a computer in a private room with a lock on the door, for the sake of their safety and character. Some of you who have dealt with victims of addiction may also agree, drastic measures have to be taken for their own good. Some may even feel the same way about locking doors and teenagers as this kid's parents.
Personally...I think somewhere around the time of his award for citizenship, they could have at least got him a lock and said he earned it. This no lock in general policy makes me wonder what else goes on in that house.
Am I being ignorant by saying that these parents are cracked...?