I tell it like it is with no BS or sugar-coating. Straight to the point. I do that in real life. I do that here on CPF as well. Gotten me in trouble a few times. Not just here.Why not just say "dark skinned fellow with black hair"? (Assuming he had black hair.) Unless he was a light skinned fellow with blond hair or tan skinned fellow with brown hair that should invoke a mental visual without mentioning the R word in any form.
When somebody asks me to describe a person that's what I do. If they ask what race they were I answer that with what I believe is their race but find giving a description to be more informative.
My wife's youngest son for example is a skinny pale skin fellow with a big orange afro. His best friend is a heavy set dark skinned fellow with dark brown short kinky hair.
Lost out on a good job about a decade ago because my potential boss asked me an honest question, I gave him an honest reply. Wasn't even anything controversial. But he didn't like my honest reply. Looking back now, I can honestly say it wasn't a huge loss. Good job, but not great. Came with an almost 2-hour commute one way! Easily the worst part of the job. Now I'm at another good job. With the commute being about 25 minutes one way. So in the end, I stayed true to myself and it didn't really cost me anything.
I'm me. If anyone doesn't like that I'm a straight shooter who tells it like it is, well; that's their problem to deal with. Not mine. I have my core group of loved ones made up of friends and family. Not looking to make friends with every new person I meet. Last one, intrestingly about 2 years ago. Neo-hippie chick who gives off very strong Baby-girl vibes and has a good heart. Sadly, gets very depressed during the Winter months. Unlikely friendship. Just sort of developed. That's the thing, I meet someone and a friendship develops.... great! If not? Oh well, I don't lose sleep over it.
EDIT ~ Since someone is going to wonder, she's 24 years-old. And yes, it's literally just a friendship.