Mother in law has cancer

[Coop]

Well, this really has to be the worst valentinesday I ever had.

This afternoon, I got a call from my fiancee that her mother is in the hospital. She was diagnosed with a bad pneumonia, but more details would be given later. Later I got another call, my mother in law has been diagnosed with lung cancer. Unfortunately, the cancer can't be treated until the pneumonia is gone, and the pneumonia itself is quite severe. She's coughing up blood and all kinds of nasty things.

Tomorrow we'll go see how she is holding up.

 

[greenLED]

:candle: for y'all May.

 

[redskins38]

Ill keep her in my prayers.

 

[arewethereyetdad]

So sorry. Will be praying for you and your family.

 

[SilverFox]

Hello MayCooper,

We will hold her in our thoughts and prayers...

Tom

 

[PhotonWrangler]

I'm sorry to hear this MayCooper. The pneumonia is treatable so they should be able to clear that out of the way and get to the business of treating the other stuff soon. I'll keep her and your family in my thoughts.

 

[KC2IXE]

...snip...This afternoon, I got a call from my fiancee that her mother is in the hospital. She was diagnosed with a bad pneumonia, but more details would be given later.

May,
I feel for you - Last May, I got a very similar phone call - only it was my Mom. Sent to the hospital with pneumonia, where they discovered stage IIIb Adenosarcoma (a form of Non-small cell Lung Cancer) The Docs told me that less than 20% make it to one year, but knock on wood, Mom's still with us, with very minimal treatment (Mom's choice) - Dad was supposed to take her out to dinner tonight, but something about 3"+ of sleet put a crimp on those plans

 

[Coop]

thanks a lot for the support guys & gals!

I'll keep you all posted on the situation...

 

[Chronos]

Oh God, MayCooper, I'm so sorry. My best to you and your fiancee'. You all are in my prayers tonight. Please do keep us posted, as we can hope the initial diagnosis was incorrect.

 

[eebowler]

Sorry to hear about this May. We're here for you. :grouphug:

 

[PlayboyJoeShmoe]

Sorry to hear it May!!! Prayers go out for you/her!

And hijack: Today Dad learned he has Prostate Cancer. Supposedly a 6 on the 10 scale.
Eminently treatable, but scary all the same!

 

[LifeNRA]

MayCooper and PlayboyJoeSmoe,
Prayers sent for both.

 

[CLHC]

Sorry to hear about this MayCooper Sir. I know the feeling since finding out that my mom was diagnosed with breast cancer. . .

 

[TorchMan]

Thoughts and prayers...

 

[Coop]

Well, my father in law just came by to give us an update on the situation. The cancer is now said to be inoperable. It will have to be treated with medication (no details on that yet). But first the Pneumonia has to be gone. On top of that, there is an infection that has to be gone too, this infection is partially inside the tumor (or something like that, the situation is quite emotional her, so I might have misinterpreted some info, or translated wrongly). So the outlook at this time is quite bleak... We'll have to wait until the pneumonia and the infection to be gone, after that, we can only hope for the best...

My fiancee is taking it pretty hard, but we try to keep our good spirits up.

We're going to see her this afternoon. I'll pass on all the prayers and wishes from you guys.



Pepijn

 

[DocArnie]

I'm sorry to hear that.

My fiancee is taking it pretty hard, but we try to keep our good spirits up.

If you want an advice, please don't cry when you're near her. I had Hodgkin's lymphoma when I was 18. The hardest part was seeing my family cry, as if there was no hope for me. So don't say anything negative. Don't just think positive, talk positive, too!
I had a quite extreme chemo therapy, but when I'm honest to myself, this really wasn't as hard as seeing friends and family on the edge of giving up hope. You can get used to physical sickness, but the psychological pressure from the family isn't that easy.
Example: I told a friend that I still wanted to finish school as scheduled - I wanted to attend school during my treatment without losing a single year. His reaction wasn't "Sure you can, buddy!" but "I want to hope for you that you can do that" as if I would be dead by then...

ETA: People around me didn't know how to deal with the situation, how to behave when I'm around. So I was pretty alone with dealing with that. Try to not let her deal with it alone, try to understand what she's going through. If she gets a chemotherapy, her mood will go from one extreme to another. When she gets angry about trivial things, don't fight back - she doesn't mean it.

 

[KC2IXE]

MayCooper,
The bad news is she has this infection - the GOOD news is (based upon what I've seen in the last year) that they can usually beat those infections back fairly quickly (Mom has been in 3 times for lung infections). Prayers to you and yours

 

[Rayne]

May, will pray for your mother in law. PlayboyJoe, will pray for your father. CHC, will pray for your mother. Stay strong!

 

[amlim]

may, my prayers for your mum-in-law. you got to stay positive.

 

[TiberiusBeeKirk]

My prayers go out to you May and all the others here dealing with this dreaded disease.
But please think positive, it's of no use to be full of dread.
My mother is now almost 2 years post surgery for lung cancer. She too, was stage 3b and had a peunmonia scare while on her first round of Chemo.
Which was good because they saw how much the tumor shrunk from just one cycle of the treatment, it was amazing. Then this allowed her to have surgery to remove it, then came concurrent Chemo and Radio therapy.
All this thanks to her positive attitude and her medical team.
Did we have some scares along the way, yep but with a positive outlook, we'll pull through. and, your mom will, too.