Yup, have examples as well, in short. I was fortunate I was in excellent standing with the companies i worked for. The owner's "always" back/protected me/my business. Very fortunate.
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What was your Good deed for the day?
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Yup, have examples as well, in short. I was fortunate I was in excellent standing with the companies i worked for. The owner's "always" back/protected me/my business. Very fortunate.
Don't get me wrong. It's not that I don't like people. It's being around them, that bothers me. ... 😎 ... lol
Unfortunately, no; it's not. I have an incredible memory (with the exception of names). I can recall experiences in vivid detail from decades ago. Not even joking. Was legit shocked the first time I realized that most individuals completely lack that ability. Nothing selective at all.
Very last time I helped out a stranger who expressed genuine thanks was two decades ago. I was in a dinner situated between Macy's on 34th street in Manhattan, and Madison Square Garden further up. A young man came in with a few of his friends. Mixed group of guys and girls. Place was near empty. They sat two tables away, directly to my right. The young man actually said "Excuse me," then proceeded to ask for the time (clearly having noticed my wrist-watch). I told him, and the "Thank You" that came out of his mouth was genuine. THAT was the very last time.
But perhaps we are counting, politeness based on what certain people don't do when sharing spaces open to the Public? Fair enough, bit earlier than two decades ago.... There's a White Castle in West Hempstead Long Island that my friends and I used to frequent. Oh! I could tell you some fascinating horror stories of that place! But, I doubt you want to read a novel. Short version: People who worked there? Ghetto trash mentality. To be clear NOTHING to do with race. The people who ate there? Same thing. Oh, and the occasional random druggie lunatic. (Like the elderly one who challenged me and my two friends to a game of Midnight basketball in the mostly empty White Castle parking lot one night. No, there is no basketball hoop out there.)
But I digress.... A pimp with three of his "Working Girls" came in one night. They didn't yell, they didn't shout. No one was shaking because they needed a fix. They weren't in there propositioning my good friend John.... Nor any other dudes who happen to be named "John." (Yes, John is his actual name.) They ordered their food, sat down at an out-of-the-way table. Quietly ate. Didn't bother anyone. Didn't disturb anyone. Based on how all of them were dressed, everyone in the place knew.
Think about it.... The most respectable, and most respectful people in that place were a pimp and his girls! I drove all the time back then. After an incident with a polite but threatening racist stoner who sat uninvited at our table, while his two non-stoner friends watched; apparently happy to let three dudes pound the crap out of their rude friend who was as high as the stars up in space.... I put my foot down! No more hanging out at that piece of trash White Castle just because it was the only one in the area! And no, we didn't pound the racist. My friend Dan defused the situation while I sat there with one of my self-defense tools that I palmed under the table just in case things got out of hand. Danny always was a charmer. Not always a good friend though.
All true. If anyone doesn't believe me, go ask my friend Dan.... He's currently the Director of Sports betting at the New Hampshire Lottery. Mister I'm never leaving Las Vegas! (Guess they offered him enough money to move back to the East coast. He must be bored out of his skull.)
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Same. Outside of retail transactions, I don't bother talking to folks in general unless it's absolutely necessary.
Toulouse42
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My father always taught me to make life easier for people who drive for a living. My experience is that almost without exception they wave a thank you. The least courteous tend to be mothers with children, who often seem distracted. Opening doors for others - not that successful. Often the least thankful people are young women.
Very much admiration for your dad. It is interesting how a nice gesture can ripple out good will towards others.
Please if I may, given that I work with young people: Some women and girls are afraid guys are looking to hook up with them; and they think that’s why the guy is being nice. So they are primarily communicating that they are not interested.
Certainly it is possible that they are so self involved, living a very selfish life that their parents provided, sure, snark for all to see. I get as much if not more of that from young males. Nothing wrong with saying something like, “Shouldn’t you be saying thank you?” With a knowing smile.
I'm going to proffer the following for discussion: If you're offended that someone doesn't say thank you when you hold the door open for them, it's because you didn't get the reaction you knew you deserved.
I'm not excusing their bad behaviour. I'm stating that you committed the good deed to feel good about yourself, therefore, it was actually a selfish act. 😸
The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it?
Thoughts?
Toulouse42
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Thank you. Dad was indeed wiser than I realised (when I was a teenager).
Interesting observation about young women, although at my age I hope they don't get the wrong idea.
Oddly enough many years ago in San Diego a young man dressed in what to my British eyes was a "street" look, said "thank you sir" when I held the door for him. I was mucho impressed.
Most young men, if they're lucky, are amazed by how much their dad learned as they aged from 18 to 30.
Toulouse42
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I have read this before but I have to disagree. I open/hold doors for people because I was taught that in a civilised society, courtesy is important. Acknowledging that courtesy is an essential element of that interaction (no biggie - just a smile will do).. As Kitrobaskin said "It is interesting how a nice gesture can ripple out good will towards others". Maybe I feel good about the good deed or kindness, but its not why I do it.
@Toulouse42, My friend, do you realize you didn't address the effect it usually has on people when their kindness is ignored? 🙂
To quotr Shia lebeef, "JUST DO IT!"
I hold the door open for people because of higgins crafts.
He was awesome in Fury!
Yeah he was.
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Sure, after you. 🙃
You sound like a g-man suit. If you've flown in any gulfstreams or those CIA paraphenalia planes, we can't trust what you say, lol...
***also if your surname is Bowman, Archer, Greer, Green, Black, Brown, White, Gold, Gray/Grey, Stoner, Bell, Stone, Blackwood, Shorts, Tanner, Mason, Pool, Anders, Anderson, Smith, Blake, Givens, Harris, Clinton, or Biden, we can't trust you either...lol, only the last 3 really, but the rest are common military surnames it seems.
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