Heh, this is a funny post to me.
I mean, if you want to worry about the world, let's worry about nuclear proliferation, let's worry about the fact that 37,000,000 baby boomers are on the verge of slamming right smack dab into the medicare age, which will tax our medical and medicare systems in nearly unimaginable ways.
I mean, if you wanna worry about something, you can go all the way up to enormous meteors slamming into the earth at ungodly speeds, spreading death and mayhem everywhere, and possibly even leveling Graceland.
That aside, let's look at this a little:
Women outlive men an average of about 5.5 years. A little less these days. Therefore, if you marry a woman about 5.5 years older than you, you might be able to cash your checks at the same time. A lot of folks act as if a woman marrying a man much older than her is a good idea, but what happens when that old coot KTB's? You know, Kicks The Bucket? Okay, well gosh, he left her a will. Great, she's got money. But she doesn't have a husband now; she's a single mother without the influence of a man in the house, she's maybe got teenage Girlz Gone Wilde without any reasonable means by which to control them because, gosh, daddy was their favorite. Everything in the world crashes down on her head all at once, and she's supposed to grin and bear it because, gee, marrying a much older man is okay, m'kay.
And let's look at the problem in Italy. Where the mamones (mama's boys) are so stuck and spoiled by their mothers that the losers stay at home even into their 40's, without any prospects. It's so bad over there, with the population numbers dropping so quickly, that some towns have actually imposed taxes on single males in an effort to reverse the trend.
And let us not forget the disturbing trend that indicates that the higher a person's education, and the better accomplished s/he is, the fewer children they tend to have. And the inverse is true. Thus, the movers and shakers don't tend to pass on their qualities nearly as much as do the slackers.
It's a mad, mad, mad, mad, mad, mad world out there.
Now, about the younger man and older woman thing, lemme tell you a little story.
When I went to college in Birmingham, there was a centralized hangout place called Five Points. We loved it there, and would flock it every weekend. Welp, there was this piano bar where a lot of older, single (read: divorced) rich women would hang out. You could just tell that they were a different world from us: experienced, affluent, established, connected, and having seen a good deal more of this world than would could have hoped to. They would gather several to a classy table and people watch. It's hard to describe, but in this kinda plaza thingie the piano bar was open front, so that when you walked by you could hear the conversations and the music from the piano. We'd just be passing by, and they'd sometimes whistle or wink, and we'd laugh and do it back.
One night, one of them called me over to the table. Well, I was young and brash, and I thought everybody was kidding, and so I went and struck up a conversation. Funny, because this woman was about double my college boy age. And that's probabably the hook, because she fascinated me. We went from there.
A woman of experience has much, much to offer a young man. I know this, because I had a very enjoyable college career, dating several of these older women. They were rich, knew exactly what they wanted, could show you things that the college girls (as perky as they might be) could rarely hope to match, were more than content with booty calls, and would give you really, really nice gifts. Come to think of it, those women were as toned and fit as any of the college girls I dated. Hell, most of them had huge houses and built in gyms. After my college career, I found it difficult to tolerate the high strung girls in my general demographic, as I had become accustomed to older and more mature women. I eventually did marry someone in my demographic, but my wife was extraordinarily mature and self directed for her age, and still is even to this day.
In a nutshell, let's not assume that all men in their very early to mid 20's are necessarily looking to get married and have children and are thus disadvantaged by a relationship with an older woman. They are looking to enjoy life. If they get that enjoyment via younger women, fine. If they get their jollies with older women, fine again. Whatever floats your boat, I say.
Now, with the issue of marriage, I find it kind of ironic that we accept older men marrying younger women, but frown on older women dating younger men. If we ponder this for a moment, I believe we would find the following true at times: if a younger man spends his days with an older woman, who then passes away and leaves him well funded and middle aged, would he not then be in the perfect, socially acceptable position of being the older, well-heeled gentleman who is free to marry the younger woman?
Gentlemen and ladies of the audience, I challenge the notion that younger men dating or marrying older women is a travesty of social grace. Rather, I posit that it is one of the very mechanisms by which we accomplish one of our greatest societal expectations: that where a man of experience and gain leads an ingenue into maturity, whereby he takes a girl and makes a woman. And I ask you: what better man is there to accomplish this than a man trained on women, who stood fast and full of wisdom, and who showed him the skills he would later need in his quest?:laughing:
Other people can take care of themselves...they're big boys and girls...free will, etc...
