That's some good thread necromancy there, Jim...
The problem with aftermarket HIDs vs OEM HIDs is that putting HID bulbs into housings designed for halogen lamps is never going to end well. The reflectors and lenses designed for use with halogens cause most, if not all, of the "offensive" light output associated with HIDs. OEM HID systems, such as those on my car (Mazdaspeed3), use a shield and aspheric lens to project a precise horizontal cutoff, above which is dark. Proper aiming of these headlights is very easy, and many systems like mine let you adjust the vertical position of the beam from within the car with a rotary switch. I find that for the most part, I can see the headlight's output on the back of the vehicle in front of me, and it does NOT light up the rear window of the car - hence, it won't blind the driver. On the rare occasion that it is in a position to be offensive, all I need to do is flip the switch down and the lights self-adjust to a lower height. This also means that I can drive the unlit backroads in the countryside where I live and raise the headlights to better see any deer, fallen trees, dogs, or an accident on the road.
In short, I feel that HIDs, when properly installed and configured, provide greater safety and convenience for drivers. When improperly installed, they are at best a nuisance, and at worst, a hazard.