ledlurker
Enlightened
My mom is 65 years old and has advanced stages of Multiple Sclerosis. After dealing with grandparents with Alzheimers and Dementia, I have to say that having a sharp mind and a body that no longer obeys you is harder on the patient and the relatives. My mom has been in a constant state of depression for 10 years, will not plan/think logically etc. She has home help from 8am till 10 pm 24/7 to help dress, cook, bathroom trips, showers and clean for her. She is getting to the final advanced stage to where she will need 24 hour care at home and my brothers can not afford the extra $40,000 a year in order for her to stay in her house. I take care of 2 very young children and have to plan my time so far in advance that I still had to mow my grass in pouring down rain yesterday evening in order to stay on schedule and still did not finish.
I am at my wits end here. I do not wish to put her in a nursing home but when her finances are gone, I see not other recourse. I am not very good at taking care of her because of her attitude and trying to care for 2 dependant kids, maintain my own home and have a meal on the table for when my wife gets home.
I have offered to manage her finances for her: - no deal---
I have offered to help her find a more suitable place:- no deal---
I have offered to manage her employes (on my terms though)- no deal
I had to spend two hours today (time I did not have and missed a critical medical appointment for myself) soothing ruffled feathers of one of her helpers and herself because both of them are to proud to admit they were both wrong in an argument. So now I have to pay additonal money to get sitters again when I reschedule my appointment. I am to emotionally fatigued to be mad at this point.
for the record for people out there who might be contemplating 24 hour care for a loved one. My great great uncle was spending $105K a year and this was two years ago. /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/mecry.gif
I am at my wits end here. I do not wish to put her in a nursing home but when her finances are gone, I see not other recourse. I am not very good at taking care of her because of her attitude and trying to care for 2 dependant kids, maintain my own home and have a meal on the table for when my wife gets home.
I have offered to manage her finances for her: - no deal---
I have offered to help her find a more suitable place:- no deal---
I have offered to manage her employes (on my terms though)- no deal
I had to spend two hours today (time I did not have and missed a critical medical appointment for myself) soothing ruffled feathers of one of her helpers and herself because both of them are to proud to admit they were both wrong in an argument. So now I have to pay additonal money to get sitters again when I reschedule my appointment. I am to emotionally fatigued to be mad at this point.
for the record for people out there who might be contemplating 24 hour care for a loved one. My great great uncle was spending $105K a year and this was two years ago. /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/mecry.gif