There are different aspects or characteristics of durability that must be considered: Impact resistance, corrosion resistance, hardness, etc.
For sheer hardness, a PVD (physical vapor deposition) coating such as Titanium Nitride, harder than steel itself, is one of the most wear resistant. It is commonly available in matte black and gold, and found on drill bits and knives.
Boron Carbide (BC) is a CVD (chemical vapor deposition) coating that is harder than Titanium Nitride (TiN), and as hard as diamond. In addition, BC is not semi porous like Titanium Nitride, so it gives complete corrosion protection. BC coating, IIRC, is a patented process by
BodyCote, and is available in glossy black.
These types of coatings are the most wear resistant and the hardest. However, because they are incredibly thin, dings and impacts to the coated metal are easily seen. Powder coating, which is thicker, is more durable in this regard.