It took a bit of work, and I must commend some manufacturers reps for their help in finding a suitable switch that met my desires.
Otto has a switch that met all of the must haves, as well as the nice to haves...it was rather expensive, but it was a great "fit"...
Otto K5AB442BPF-44
A rocker switch, sealed to IP68, illuminated in green, ON-ON, dependent LEDS on the right poles, DPDT (wanted SPDT but this will work), and rather importantly, In-Stock..and I could get a mating connector. ..I should have it late next week, and get to the install next weekend.
Looking forward to seeing how it comes out...