You can buy an IR detection strip at radio shack. It is a plastic card with a strip of IR sensitive coating on it. To activate the strip, you hold it up to a bright light source for half a minute, and then expose it to any IR radiation. You will notice the strip flicker or glow when IR is present. (It will flicker when pointing a remote control at it as a remote control blinks its signal)
If your pointer is leaking IR, you should detect a very significant glow when held near, but not in the beam.
I have not actually done this, but in theory, I should be correct.