It's really not as bad as you think, but does require some skill and specialized tools, nonetheless. Keep in mind, I have done soldering of this type with those cheap radio shack bargain bin $5 soldering irons with the huge, "clubbo" style tips.....but I'm surprised the circuit even worked after I got done. As an amateur/hobbyist, I would suggest the following hardware.
1) High magnification reading glasses ( couple bucks at most drug stores ).
2) A circuit board holder - these usually have two large alligator clips and fully adjustable arms which allow it to hold the circuit board in any orientation ( $5 - $ 15 bucks at an electronics store or on eBay ).
3) A low-end Weller soldering station ( $40 - $60 on eBay or at your local electronics store ). I believe the model number is WP-60.
4)
This one is important ! The very smallest soldering tip you can find ! I managed to find one that got down to 4 thousandths of an inch and ground it down to 1 thousandths.....it's still a little big, but gets the job done.
5) Alternately, if you can't afford the weller, you could make your own solder-tweezers ( which actually worked BETTER than the weller, but weren't temperature regulated ). I've posted instructions for making them
here .
Then, I recommend building up a small solder bead on the circuit board pads where you'll be soldering the SMT's ( even the smallest solder wire is usually too big to try pushing it against the SMT and circuit board when you solder them together ). Then just glue down the smt's ( with a small dot of rtv or something that allows for removal if you blow the device during soldering ) onto the circuit board ( so they don't stick to your soldering tip when you pull the iron away ), and solder away.........quickly. You can't linger more than a fraction of a second while making the solder bead or you'll fry the SMT. It's sort of a swiping maneuver rather than a hold and flow maneuver. If you use the tweezers, it's even easier, but you have to make sure they don't get too hot. I had to turn mine on, then off again, and let them cool for a minute or two before it was safe to solder with them.