Nochrome, thanks for your thoughts on this -
Here's a few things to think about...
1. Are you actually ready to kill someone?
2. I mean really actually kill them?
I sincerely hope it never comes to this. However if I'm faced with the strong possibility of losing my own life at the hand of some creep, failure is not an option.
3. Do you know what someone with a gun will do right after you shoot them? They will most often shoot you.
I'm keenly aware of the fact that shooting at someone will probably p*ss them off. Taking immediate evasive action is a prudent idea.
4. Do you know that its actually a very rare event to kill someone with the first shot? (even headshots are not certain) I have seen several people talking/walking after being shot in the head. Including one amazing fellow that shot himself in the head and then jumped off a 3rd story balcony. I digress...
Yes, I have no illusions of being able to neutralize a situation instantly. This ain't hollywood.
If I sense that the perp is unarmed or at least has no firearm, I'm much more likely to respond with pepper spray or other defensive measures.
6. Will you hesitate if the suspect only has a knife. If he's within 21 feet of you (not to mention the 2-3 feet he probably is) he can stick that knife in your chest or throat before most pro's can even draw and fire an accurate round. Did you know that? And yes, even if you shoot him he can still do that.
I was surrounded by a gang and held up at knifepoint once. Yep, I'm aware of that.
7. What if he just has his fists and threatens you. Will you kill and unarmed man? I'n not saying you won't but will you? really?
Absolutely not! My first strategy would be to try to talk him down. Failing that, I would employ other nonlethal measures. I'm not out to blow anyone away; I'm out to preserve my chances of remaining alive myself. I have a deep respect for life, mine as well as others. I'm also keenly aware that the other person has a family.
8. Maybe you think you'll just threaten him with the gun and he'll just run away?
Doubtful, but it all depends on the situation and the level of aggression and competence that I sense from him.
9. But now you've introduced a gun to what was essentially an unarmed encounter.
Nope. Not if he's unarmed.
... I am saying though, that if your playing the odds you are way better of giving the idiot your wallet or watch or whatever. Note that your own post indicates that your relative was robbed at gunpoint but not hurt. It's not just giving in, its a smart tactical decision which you make based upon what you can honestly say you are capable of. I hope you accept this in the helpful spirit it was intended. Good luck!
All of your points are well taken and I appreciate your opinion, Nochrome. I've struggled with this decision for many years, and I'm still a little uneasy about the whole thing because of the sheer gravity of the possible consequences of carrying. However I've reached a point where I recognize that I could well find myself in a situation where I need a little more than pepper spray, a bright, disorienting strobe flashlight and other nonlethal methods. And I sincerely hope that I never,
never have to use it, other than for practice. In my mind it starts with trying to keep a cool head when confronted with a situation and making a choice based on the minimum amount of response to neutralize the threat as safely and effectively as possible.
P.S I would not say the same things about a gun for home defense. Being in your home changes things quite a bit, but thats a whole new topic....
Yep. Some states are specifically recognizing this as a special situation that automatically warrants a strong response. I happen to agree with this.