zespectre
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Let me start by stating that I'm mostly just venting right now, though I would be interested in comments from others.
The long and short of it is that my wife is a fairly devout Catholic while I could best be described as a Diest. We have had a good marriage for four years with mutually acceptable compromises on this difference.
Now we are at the stage where we are planning on kids soon and suddenly it seems like she is kicking into super dogma mode. This has been causing at least an argument a week (I'm really feeling like she just expects me to "drop in line" with the Catholics and then gets mad when I don't).
Her favorite line lately is some variation on "well, what about the childern, what are they going to believe, I don't want them confused"? And she REALLY hates my response that, we teach them what we believe but in the end what they believe is going to be their decision".
That one is sure to start an hour of glaring looks if not a full blown tiff!
I've never been good at "playing along" with things I don't believe and I'm starting to get worried that this issue is going to wind up taking us down the "D" road.
She wants to do marriage counceling...with a Catholic priest /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/ooo.gif. I am (understandibly I think) reluctant to go there.
The Diest/rational in me is looking for other viewpoints on this matter. It's an attempt to make sure I'm not stuck "inside the box" in my own thinking.
Okay, I'm done...you may now resume your regular scheduled program /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/wink.gif
The long and short of it is that my wife is a fairly devout Catholic while I could best be described as a Diest. We have had a good marriage for four years with mutually acceptable compromises on this difference.
Now we are at the stage where we are planning on kids soon and suddenly it seems like she is kicking into super dogma mode. This has been causing at least an argument a week (I'm really feeling like she just expects me to "drop in line" with the Catholics and then gets mad when I don't).
Her favorite line lately is some variation on "well, what about the childern, what are they going to believe, I don't want them confused"? And she REALLY hates my response that, we teach them what we believe but in the end what they believe is going to be their decision".
That one is sure to start an hour of glaring looks if not a full blown tiff!
I've never been good at "playing along" with things I don't believe and I'm starting to get worried that this issue is going to wind up taking us down the "D" road.
She wants to do marriage counceling...with a Catholic priest /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/ooo.gif. I am (understandibly I think) reluctant to go there.
The Diest/rational in me is looking for other viewpoints on this matter. It's an attempt to make sure I'm not stuck "inside the box" in my own thinking.
Okay, I'm done...you may now resume your regular scheduled program /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/wink.gif