On a friendlier note it's easy for us to be so "violent" because we've been around a while. To someone new to the world it is a lot more complicated. I was there and forget that sometimes.
To your questions though, the links we provided will help. No one can really answer those questions because..
People have different opinions on strobes, SureFire, and lubricants. The only way to decide is to read around.
You said you had looked and yes, there are a lot of threads. So read around those links and it should be much easier.