I don't do spiders in the house either. I've never cooked one with a flashlight, but I've frozen a few with cans of canned air.
I have a friend that lives with several HUGE wolf spiders. I had the privilege of staying with him recently and watched as his house spiders caught full sized cockroaches. That should give you an indication of the spiders size... YIKES! not in my house...
Although I do have quite a population of funnel web spiders in the yard. If you go out in the morning when the dew is on their webs, you can see quite a large number of the webs all over the garden beds. and if you walk around in the afternoon you can see them duck inside their holes in the middle of the webs. Somehow they don't bother me, they don't come inside!
Then there was this lovely lady who was living on the side of my home last summer. We had several threads about this back then. remember my banana spider?
She also didn't come in the house, so I was just amazed and watched her.
Most of these spiders aren't aggressive, they won't come after you, but I'm still freaked out by the most common way people are bitten... By trapping the spider between you and that nice clean shirt you just picked out of the closet without knowing that there was a huge honking spider inside it!! YUCK, and YIKES!