Re: THE wife
(Michigan Man speaks truth ... ) /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/ooo.gif
Even shortly after I was married, many years ago (1967), I refered to my wife at times as "the wife" or "my wife" or "the other half" when talking with others. It was, I suppose a slight distancing of strangers and aquaintences from
MY WIFE.
This was even said in her presence, as in "My wife works for XXX." or "Let me ask my wife." It was an indication to the "other" not only who I was refering to, or going to ask, but identified the relationship of "my wife" to myself and the conversation (who's Connie?).
The only time it was an insult (or warning) would be when I'd introduce her or refer to her, in her presence, as "my first wife." She'd pick up on that right quickly, and understand without belaboring the point that "the husband" was not pleased with some recent interaction ... /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/whoopin.gif
Here on CPF I will refer to her as "my wife" or "the wife" rather than Connie because "wife" indicates to others who I'm talking about and why, whereas "Connie" would only be recognized by those who actually know both of us.
As usual, she will likely continue to refer to me as "what's his name." /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/wink2.gif