Re: whats is the first thing you notice in opisite
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Wits' End said:
I have a friend who worked on Apache Helicopter simulators. Part of the system was a helmet that tracked eye movement and would display what the pilot saw with a crosshair for targeting. In testing when a guy was wearing it and a woman walked in the eyes tracked across the breasts, hips and face. No matter how happily married or single the eyes tracked the same areas.
So for us married guys the point is not to dwell on what we look at. /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/drool.gif /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/twakfl.gif
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LOL! Nice. Seriously, though, you CAN stop yourself from looking at all, and if you do have to look you can force your eyes to go where you want them to, but this all requires an immense amount of self-discipline.
Still, you can master your lower self. Recovered alcoholics, or anyone who has to fight an addiction will tell you that if you allow yourself to think about beer (for example) and dwell on it, you will fall. So even to SEE beer on TV or on a billboard is something to be avoided as much as possible for a recovering alcoholic, especially in the beginning.
So many times I have heard married guys say "Just because I've ordered, doesn't mean I can't look at the menu." I am not here to pass judgement on their choice, but if you believe, as I do, that "if you lust after a woman in your heart" you are already guilty of sin, then that is an attitude that you can not afford to take. And yet, in today's culture, sexy women are pasted up everywhere: TV, newspapers, magazines, billboards. It's like being an alcoholic and having to live above a bar.
It's funny that we think of ourselves as a free, sexy, sexually active culture, yet so many marriages are devoid of it. I see so many books about how to rekindle intimacy in your marriage, or to have a better sex life. MAYBE, if we stopped wasting our sexual energies on teenage rock singers and swimsuit models, husbands and wives would find it much less difficult to keep the flame alive. Is it just me, or isn't this sort of obvious?
Just throwing some thoughts out there. No offense or self-righteousness intended. I certainly am human, myself.