Even if you do meet "the one", marriage still takes a lot of work. In some ways it will be the hardest thing you ever do. If you're lucky enough to meet someone, and the emotions are overwhelming, and she feels the same, good for you! That is great, and not everybody gets to experience it. Cherish that time and those feelings, you might need them later. Keep in mind, that it's also possible to find a quality person, and
make those feelings happen rather than just waiting around for
those feelings to happen to you.
However, even if you do meet the "perfect woman", and for some unimaginable reason, she feels the same way about you,
marriage is a long haul, and putting up with even the "perfect" person for the rest of your life takes endurance, patience, and dedication. You WILL get angry with her, you WILL get "sick" of her, you WILL occasionally feel a pang of fear in your gut that you're "missing out" with other women. She will feel the same way about you several times during your life together. That's okay, and it's normal. A "good marriage" is not defined by the absence of these feelings/problems, but by how you deal with them.
I have to admit, that when it came to women, the flirty, bippy GIRLS without more than one complete thought in their heads were, and are, the bait that captures my immediate interest. That's what "turns my head", I can't help it. However, people like that are the relationship equivalent of junk food or candy. You can't live off that forever. What I needed was a WOMAN. I found one, and forced myself to look past my superficial interests for deeper qualities such as dedication, motivation, and character. So I pursued her. A year of dating, then a year of being engaged, and another seven years later, I've still got a wife that's a lot better than I probably deserve.
I think a lot of marriages are doomed before they even begin because these days, people don't seem to understand what "sharing your life" with someone really means. It does not just mean "spending a lot of time with that person". It
literaly means "sharing your life". You. Yourself. A marriage commitment means that you as a person do not have complete sole ownership of yourself anymore.
Self centered people who look at a spouse and think they're "in love" only on the basis of how they look, if they impress their friends, or come from the "right background" are probably doomed to failure. You have to literaly examine if you can give yourself to this person and your marriage, and if you think she will give herself to you.
If you can honestly tell yourself that you can, then she's "the one".
BTW, this all goes double if you want to have kids. Your life isn't yours at all for at least eighteen years then.
Willing to look at it that way has paid off immensely.
Audrey & Amelia, 16 months old.
Abigail & Alice, 5 months old.