stockwiz, I'm like that too. People will think I'm really nice if they talk to me, but if they don't then they think I'm stuck up. I just don't talk to everyone and be out there unless I know you.
Things that help I've learned. (I need to force myself to look at these once and a while) /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/whoopin.gif
1) You are not inferior. You may feel your're not all that, but don't worry, you know your're a good person. Look at all the hot girls, or really nice girls, that have a-holes for boyfriends, or their boyfriends are butt ugly snagle toothed. Why do they have these girls? Because they are confident.
2) Be confident. Easiest way to do this is to amolst be fake. Put on a front in a way. Still be yourself, but put on a salesmen attitude. Push out of your mind how much you like this girl/etc and just go up and talk like you have no interest in them. It works for some reason. The less you act like you care, the more confident you act. If you are a nice person then you don't have to worry about being too cocky even though you seem like you are to yourself. You won't appear cocky at all.
3) Work out. Just make it a habbit. It will help you feel better. Worked some for me and now I look good. I still don't weigh a thing, but I'm pure muscle, and no longer stick boy. /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/thumbsup.gif
4) Get to know people. Even if you don't feel like being a close friend to them, just get to know them. People know people, etc. They might bring a nice friend with them sometime.
5) Don't over think/analize things too much. It's good to observe and find out if a girl is worth your time, but don't become so infactuted that it messes with you talking to them. You can talk and meet girls before finding out what kind of person they are. This is hard for me but you must realize that just by talking to them and getting to know them your're not making a commitment of marriage! Learn to date a litte even if you are unsure of the outcome. Ask a girl out that you aren't mad over, but kind of like. It might grow, and if not, its good practice!
That's all I can think of for now. I've realzied these things and I'm trying to practice them as best I can. Funny too, when you have a girl, other girls come to you without any work. When your single, they avoid you like the plague! I think your're more happy and carry yourself better and they pick up on that..
Here is one that I need help with, when I do meet a girl I feel is worth having a relation ship with, I become really close to them and we talk about a lot of things, but I become too close or too good of a "friend" and they don't want to mess that up with a relationship, even though we both like eachother a lot. DRIVES ME NUTS. It always happens with me. I become a "brother" to them. (*@!#$&
HELP! I guess I'm asking to get serious too late.. But I don't know when is a good time? Perhaps once they know I'm a nice person but we haven't had deep talks or anything.. arrhhh I'm not a play-ah! (@*#$
-IH the hopeless romantic /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/tongue.gif